LGBTQ culture is no longer just about sexual orientation (who you go to bed with); thanks to the transgender community, it is equally about gender identity (who you go to bed as). This shift has broadened the tent, allowing for a more nuanced understanding of human diversity. A gay bar today that does not have gender-neutral bathrooms is considered archaic, a direct result of trans-led advocacy. To ignore the ballroom scene is to ignore a pillar of modern LGBTQ culture. Documented in the seminal film Paris Is Burning , the ballroom scene was a refuge for Black and Latinx LGBTQ youth in the 1980s. While the scene included gay men, it was defined by its veneration of realness —the ability of trans women and gay men to pass as straight, cisgender civilians.
These were not "gay men in dresses." They were trans women of color fighting police brutality for homeless queer youth. They threw the bricks and high heels that sparked a movement. For decades, mainstream gay rights organizations tried to distance themselves from "gender non-conforming radicals" to appear palatable to heterosexual society. Yet, without the transgender community’s refusal to stay silent, there would be no LGBTQ culture as we know it.
Statistically, the transgender community faces devastating rates of violence, suicide attempts (over 40% of trans adults report attempting suicide at some point), and homelessness. Yet, within LGBTQ culture, trans people have built the infrastructure of care. Many of the leading mental health services for queer youth, HIV prevention programs, and homeless shelters were founded or are staffed disproportionately by trans people.
To be a member of the LGBTQ community today means standing with your trans siblings. It means understanding that your right to love who you love is intrinsically linked to their right to be who they are. In the end, the transgender community offers the ultimate gift to LGBTQ culture: the courage to live beyond the roles assigned at birth. If you or someone you know is struggling with gender identity or mental health, reach out to The Trevor Project or the Trans Lifeline. You are not alone.
