“We hadn’t had a real conversation in three years,” says Jan, a 42-year-old teacher from Ohio. “When I found his texts to a coworker, I was furious. Then I realized: I wasn’t surprised.”
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“The affair was the symptom,” says Maria, 39. “The disease was that he never really respected me. Once I saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.” Calling an affair “human” is not a free pass. Infidelity causes real trauma. Betrayal leaves scars. But when we demonize the person who strayed as a pure villain, we miss the chance to understand the fragile, flawed, longing creature that every human being is — including ourselves. “We hadn’t had a real conversation in three